I have an uncle that is usually very quiet . Anytime I get a visitor he reacts in two ways. If it is a lady he makes himself as inconspicuous as possible but if it is a guy ,he hangs around and even chats with him. As soon as the guy leaves, he asks, “Is he the one to come or should we expect another?
Usually, I answer in the negative but before long I found myself asking the same question when I meet a new guy. Is he the one to come, or should I expect another?
I’m certain my uncle meant no harm and was just looking out for his niece. Yet anytime I asked myself that question,I realised my patience run out when the guy had no romantic interest. I had it all wrong. I believe the best question to ask should be, what can I learn from this person and how can I influence his life positively.
I found myself approaching genuine friendship with this attitude. Beloved, boyfriend or nothing else. So I lost the opportunity to network with amazing people. I gave a cold shoulder to the very people God had positioned to be a blessing in my life.
Now I know better and have learnt my lessons. I hope you don’t adopt this approach to friendships with the opposite sex and if you have please change your mindset.
The one to come would surely come but please enjoy your friendships.
Much love,
Musings of a God Girl.
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